GEMOKS

"A Family Stitched Together With Love Seldom Unravels"


Theres a story behind a group of people who called themselves as 'Gemoks'. 
If you are offended with that terms, then you are not worthy to be in the group. Gemoks as in flabby, mostly refers to someone who are fat or overweight, but what do this group of people understood was that, gemoks is for people who are unfit. So, its just widen the scope of the terms 'Gemoks' to be used for slim individual, or even someone who suffer aneroxia. Special isn't it? :D

Well, the truth is... 'Gemoks' means more than anything, for me... But, you must be in the gang of "Gemoks" to endure that kind of insult. I would call them mentally strong individual who are able to accept themselves. Its not about you are big in size or shape, it is the matter of how you can accept people calling you the worst nickname, but still you can put a smile on your face. When you get used to people calling you "Gemoks" , then slowly, gradually you will be able to fight with the feeling that you already lose the weight, yet people keep calling you gemoks.

In terms of loitering, you will feel more comfortable sharing stories with them. Them who I called 2nd family here in IIUM. Building the perception between ourselves takes times. We can't blame a person of being too 'manja' or dad's princess and all that, they have been brought up that way. We are not entitled to change how they mingle with others. It comes to the point that you just accept who they are, the background of their family. The person that inspired them, that help them through tough times. Then you will know their strong and weak points in life, together finding a way to comfort each other in 'unfriendly way', just to make sure boys don't go beyond their egos, its just how boys deal with this kind of situation. 

Crazy stuff. Its a turning point of being too 'step baik' most of the time. Researches said that nice people tend to do bad things, and vice versa. I have a different thought about this, there's a different in being 'nakal' and 'jahat'. You can be both at the same time, but its okay to be 'nakal' as long as you practice Islam. That was my thinking. About being naughty, you tend to breaks laws, not islamic law, but human law and codes. Such laws are not meant to be enacted. People are afraid to do what is beyond human creativity. Some laws are being kept to uphold the company's honour name, corporate company for example. Thus limit peoples hidden capability. It is not the free country, but it all goes back to Islamic Law. Whether, you are able to restrain syaiton's temptation to do mungkar. 

Okay, whats with the crazy stuff? it involves crazy activities that were normally planned adhoc-ly. How did the adhoc plan contributes to best of any friendships? Haha. Simple, planned activites set our minds of doing future things. From our childhood, we've been taught to think about the futures, construct the plan from the beginning, if it all goes well, then people assumes they were successful, not entirely true, but for the sake of saving our future, lets assume it is true. 

Surprisingly, if its all have been planned, it is not a surprise anymore. Dr. Gregory Berns mentioned in his findings, "the brain finds unexpected pleasure more rewarding than expected ones". So, we may subconsciously desire the unpredictable experience over the experience that we consciously believe we prefer. Be truth to your feelings. If you had a crazy idea, doing that idea will make you a happy man. Life's too short to wait for a perfect moment. Sometimes being truthful is all what you need to do.



It feels good when you have someone to open up to. Theres a time when you want to share something, a nice and cozy place is all that you need to tell stories over coffee. Great time huh? it makes amazing memories, it can get you attached to one another. Being close to someone doesn't mean that you are in special relationship or whatsoever, they are your buddies for a lifetime. Be grateful for what you have now infront of your eyes, you have someone who can run to when you face any difficulties in life. 

There's a point where I felt like I want to share everything with this group of "Gemoks". The feels of acceptance from them makes it more comfortable for me and for everyone else. I learn how to take advantage of the confidence that was built within me, to build new skills that eventually help me in my life. 

That is it.
Allah, free Palestine and all muslims that were oppressed. Save Gaza during this holy month of Ramadhan. Grant them their du'a. 

Allah, jagalah mereka yang ku kasihi. Permudahkanlah jalan mereka, pandulah mereka ke arah cahaya hidayahMu. Hindarkanlah mereka dari niat khianat jin dan manusia. 

Amin. 

Gemoks,
Nazrul Arif.